Intimacy – Is It Him, Or Us…?

Essentially, intimacy is scary.

For some of us, it’s terrifying.

Going with a man who doesn’t light our fire, yet offers us true intimacy can be a very confusing thing.

Staying away from a man who lights our fire but doesn’t offer or want true intimacy with us can be painful – and yet, strangely comforting and attractive.

Solving this, so we can have what we truly want, instead of what our minds (contaminated and contorted by so many pressures and against-our-feminine-natures-experiences throughout our lives) are constantly telling us – takes almost a vow to be willing to be available to love, and to practice being available to love.

We can practice with imaginary men and imaginary circumstances, using the Modern Siren Tools in front of our mirrors, in the shower, in the kitchen – this is REAL “training” we can give ourselves.

*We can do this constantly throughout each day, practicing new words, new body bearing, new feelings, new ways to shift from our heads to our hearts.

*We can learn, in baby-steps, to open up to not-so-scary things like trees, flowers, dogs, and move slowly to open up to ourselves and our feelings.

And then, through Circular Dating – regardless of where we are in the “real world” at any given moment, we get to practice with humans in the flesh.

*We can take it out of our imaginations (and, truly, our imaginations are as “real” to our brains as what we consider real life – just not as intense), and onto the “street.”

*We can take it into our personal lives with our family, friends, lovers, husbands, dates, the men at the shop counter and the men at the speed dating event, the men at the party, the men at the bar.

It’s that constant “practice”, with “real men” in “real circumstances”, that takes everything up a notch.

It triggers us and forces us to choose between our old ways – and the new ways we’re learning.

This is the Rori Raye Method in a nutshell.

It’s about learning to NOT think.

Instead, Learning to feel.

And though it’s about not thinking, it’s still about practicing Tools that require you to be aware of where you are and what you’re choosing at any given moment – in a heart, body and sensation sense.

We’re going to include all of this in my new (and by request!) “How To Stop Overfunctioning And Start Getting His Attention” LIVE Masterclass on Sunday, May 16th, at 12 noon U.S. central time, 10am pacific, 1pm eastern, late afternoon in Europe, and middle-of-the-night in Australia! Join me here to change the course of your love life, bring back a love that feels lost, and heal the relationships you’re in->

Love, Rori

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