There are so many books out there that talk about what to “say” and what to “do” – to “play hard to get,” “have boundaries,” “don’t let him get away with stuff”…
Yes, the IDEA of “standing up to a man” is great…
…AND – if you “play” at anything, if you PRETEND to feel a way you DON’T actually FEEL – you’re being untruthful to yourself.
Then (and this happens fast…) your self-esteem drops down to the bottom… and then everything goes downhill with it.
Telling a man how “wrong” he is – even if he’s done something thoughtless and hurtful – is USELESS.
***It’s useless to try to “correct” a man’s behavior because:
1. It makes him instantly feel defensive – and as he becomes defensive, he LOSES his ATTRACTION for you.
And when he loses his Attraction for you – he loses his MOTIVATION to work HARD to keep you and the relationship.
He doesn’t see or feel a way of WINNING with you.
He feels like he’s always hurting you or disappointing you – he can never do anything right.
2. Making him “wrong” makes him see YOU as NEEDY!
That’s right – he sees YOU as making him the center of your world. And that stops his attraction for you dead in its tracks.
So – what do you do instead? How do you TALK to a man who isn’t doing what you want him to do? Who isn’t loving you the way you want and deserve to be loved?
I know the answers to these questions because I figured them out in my own life, with my own man (now my fabulous husband) – and once I “got” it – it was like I’d taken a magic pill.
You CAN turn things around on a dime – and you can do it without working so hard (the way we women have all been wrongly taught to work hard for a relationship). And you can do it without pain.
If you’ve been struggling with these kinds of situations – not knowing when your instinct to “help,” or “be a good sport,” or “be reasonable,” or “be a good girlfriend or wife” is actually HELPING your relationship or HURTING it….OR – if you’re feeling so ANGRY (and righteously so!) that the tension and frustration feels overwhelming sometimes – look at the Love Forever Live Coaching Program starting July 8th:
Love Forever in 12 Weeks is the only program where you’ll be personally coached by me – live in class twice per month, and privately, 24/7, over email and Voxer voice messaging. I’d love to work with you throughout your Love Forever experience to help you create, perhaps finally, the romantic life you want.
Only 10 women will be accepted into Love Forever In 12 Weeks – it’ll be all live, personal coaching for you, and includes 24 online Zoom video classes, a private Facebook group, 3 one-to-one private sessions with your own Rori Raye coach – and 24/7 email and Voxer access to me!
Your hand will be held non-stop as you get taught, coached, guided and inspired through 12 weeks with me, brilliant coaches Michelle Manley, Natalina Love, Guest Master Coaches and amazing Rori Raye Coaches. You’ll have a team beside you for 12 weeks that’ll “have your back” and transform your love life->
What I call “The Modern Siren Combo” is about these two things: Warmth and Distance.
Warmth works like this: You speak the truth – not about HIM – but about the heart of YOU. And you do that in a completely different way than we’ve been taught and trained.
You do it from a “feeling” place – where you’re ALWAYS “sharing your feeling state” with a man.
And this requires that you learn to speak in “Poetry” – using Rori Raye Feeling Messages.
Distance is the other part of the “Combo” – it changes the way you feel about yourself, adds to your confidence, creates your ability to be “cool” under stress and high stakes, and nearly automatically compels a man to come closer to you.
This is about “Circular Dating” (which is not at ALL about “dating”! It’s about learning how to create Warmth and Distance with absolute strangers wherever you go. It’s “Love School” – whether you’re dating or married! Makes no difference!).
The “Distance” part of the “Combo” – where you practice Modern Siren Tools out in the world – is where you learn to love, respect, honor and adore yourself so that every man you meet will love, respect, honor and adore you!
So, if you’re enduring the back-and-forth of a “Rubberband Man,” or longing for love and feel like there’s no good man out there for you – check out Love Forever In 12 Weeks here->
I look forward to personally helping you get what you truly want.