What A Man Really Wants – Your Modern Siren Hotness

As a man over 40 recently said to me “A man wants a woman who can turn him on.” Meaning – “a woman who can turn his BODY on” – specifically so he can get right into sex with confidence and “high performance.”

Sounds so crass. So basic. So what we’ve always thought and feared about man, doesn’t it?

And yet I believe him.

So what exactly does this mean for you?

If you’re in your 20s and he’s in his 20s that means that almost any woman he sees can turn him on. Quickly, easily, strongly.

He’s free to roam about the country. He’s free to roam about women-kind. And what he needs from you is something extra: This is where the emotional content of being a Modern Siren really carries the day – because your Modern Siren-ness IS your “hotness.”

It separates you out from other women on a deeper level of attraction.

If you’re in your 30s and he’s in his 30s the same may apply. He may be a little picky here in terms of personality and whether not you have “class” as well as “hotness,” but essentially, he needs to FEEL something when he sees you.

This is where being a Modern Siren is crucially important – because this is the point in his life where he’s actually thinking about what it would be like to have a wife.

Whether it would help him in his business. Whether it would enrich his life. Whether or not he wants children.

Now if you’re in your 40s and he’s in his 40s or 50s or 60s, we have a completely different scenario.

We have a scenario where a man does not trust his body. He does not trust his body to get him sexually functioning – fast enough, or hard enough, or at all. His testosterone is waning.

His fantasy life, however, is still going strong. He wants what you want – excitement, thrills, sex – someone who turns him on.

At the same time – he needs safety – and these two needs can seem very contradictory.

This is where you need to be so skillful. This is where your understanding of what he needs and how he needs it – WITHOUT giving up your sense of self and the confidence that goes with it – becomes so important.

This is where turning a man on GLOBALLY is really crucial.

You can’t just “use” your body or your personality or your brain or your success.

And here are some things that will absolutely not turn him on the way he wants to see himself “perform well sexually” at this point: 

  • Cleaning house well, looking after him, over-functioning, over-nurturing, giving more than he does, asking him how he feels…
  • Making him more important than you are.
  • Making him better than you are.
  • Making him wrong.
  • Correcting him.
  • Making his needs more important than your needs. Or…
  • Feeling as though you need him desperately.
  • Being Clingy.
  • Getting upset by his behavior.
  • Feeling defensive.
  • Letting your insecurities lead you.

(If you’ve seen the book “Porn For Women,” and it turns you on – know he’s the exact opposite!)

This is where your confidence and your ability to “wrap him around your little finger” are absolutely critical.

These are the skills I want to teach you – and, though they’ll help you differently in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s – Attraction doesn’t really change for man.

It just gets more challenging to create.

To get personal, private, awesome coaching help with any situation you’re experiencing – down to the specifics of the words you use, and your body language – using Rori Raye Tools that only Rori Raye Trained coaches know how to use! – go here for Siren Circle Private Coaching:

Love, Rori


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