What’s The One Thing Keeping You From Having It All?

rori for business sirenHi, and I’d love your help!

Please let me know your thoughts and feelings about this:

What – in your personal experience and the experiences of your friends and familydo you see as the biggest problem around being successful at work, and still having a great love life?

Here are some questions and ideas to help you help me with this:

How has work, business, earning a living, and being successful gotten in the way of your love life?

How has a man gotten in the way of your success at work?

Do you ever feel worried that being successful in business will intimidate men and wreck your love life – so you stop yourself in business before you even start…?

Do the men you meet make you feel “unfeminine” for being so good at business?

Do you feel more like a man at work than like a “girl” and find it icky..?

(Or – if you LOVE taking charge, being independent, working at all hours hard as you like, making good money and – then find yourself frustrated with men...)

Let me know if love and money seem like opposites to you..

Let me know how you really feel, down deep, about the possibility of Having It All – work AND love?

If there’s one thing that stands out for you, that’s making “Having It All” seem impossible for you – please let me know the details!

Love, Rori

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  1. Brenda on March 12, 2015 at 8:20 am

    I just want to be my best self, and I figure if a man can’t handle my success, then that is his issue. Because a confident man would celebrate my success. My man has joyfully taken on the role of keeping the house and managing the budget while I go out and earn good money! And thanks to your tools and concepts in http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com, I HAVE a good man who loves me well!

    Ideally, what I would like is to run my own business and be able to work from home, spending more time with him in our cozy love nest!

  2. Rori Raye on March 12, 2015 at 8:43 am

    Awesome, Brenda, thank you….I’m collecting all your comments for my new book The Business Siren Handbook – may I use your comment and the name “Brenda”? Love, Rori

  3. shelly on March 12, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Hi Rori,
    I have a hat trick of things keeping me from meeting the right people. I have a chronic illness that comes with it’s limitations, However, they aren’t apparently obvious at meeting. I am on SSI due to my illlness and don’t have much money. I have a young son and am a 365 single mom. I am apparently very attractive but when men find out about all this baggage they don’t want to get too close. I refuse to lower my worth to just take what I can get. worse yet, I fell hard for someone and we have been dating a very long time but he doesn’t think he wants children so we just keep our options open to others without committing completely to each other. I need help. I am a train wreck!
    Thanks shelly

  4. Rori Raye on March 12, 2015 at 3:40 pm

    Shelly, Hi – I’m going to refer you to my Certified Coaches – and you’ll also see a post here about my new Coach Trainees for free! Just go to the Directory from the home page at CoachRori – and you’ll get amazing help. Love, Rori

  5. Natalie on March 12, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    Hi Rory,
    I find your work very inspiring. I purchased your entire program about five years ago and have incorperated it in my life. I feel you never stop learning and i will always continue to seek to be better where i lack

    Here is my problem.
    I have the worst fear of telling a man how i feel about him. So i tend to get to a certain point in a relationship and it falls apart. Im.so scared of being rejected either right from the start or when things start to heat up that they dont go anywhere or end.

    Also i feel like i put my career on hold for the men i meet. Ive read alot about how woman are suppose to follow the men and there plans and stand by them and there dreams. But clearly this is not working.

    Im not sure how to embrace being a strong woman in a career sense and forget about men and being married. I always felt you are suppose to find the man first and then you plan your life..career, family etc. But im now 30 and it hasnt happened for me yet.

    Ive alreay done 1 uni course and that took everything i had but still dont feel good enough in the sense that i wont attract the man i want because the field i work in isnt a high paying field and what kind of man wants a woman who cant help pay the mortgage, bills and have great hobbies and a lifestyle.

    Now the course i did as my passion i havelost inspiration for because i feel like ive made a bad career choice. I keep attracting B class men and they generally dont have any aspirations in life or dont treat you well. I know the kind of man i would like to meet but just cant seem to attract them.

    Also im a lady who is quite large. Ive never had a problem meeting men. And been told on many occassions that im very attractive. Far more attractive than i think i am. But these men are quite attractive to the point my friends cant even believe these guys would go for me. But i get intimidated by there looks and think im not good enough for them so i cant even date them. If they approach me i act all silly. I dated two very attractive guys one i couldnt tell him how i felt and he didnt so i felt i lost that one. And the other one i told him how i felt and he didnt feel the same so the rejection sent me into depression.

    Im not sure if this will help Rori, i saw the link and thought i would try and give back as you have helped me with your program i just feel like im still missing something.

  6. Rori Raye on March 16, 2015 at 3:44 pm

    Natalie – Thank you so much for your gorgeous letter – and I want to encourage you to try out some Rori Raye Certified Coaches. Most are so affordable – look around their websites and see what you can afford. Also – I’ll have new Coach Trainees for you for free in a few weeks – be sure to get on my Business Siren list here (home page) to get the notice when they’re available! I know the coaches can get you settled into feeling better and getting better results…Love, Rori