And sometimes it’s not. Not even close.
A man, though we hardly ever believe he’s that “smart,” can TELL when we’re “just saying ‘yes.'”
In other words – when we’re lying.
We think we’re just being “nice.” We think we’re being a good “girlfriend” or “wife” or “date.”
But what we’re being is distinctly unappealing.
“Going along with things” when you truly don’t want to is not the same as “being easy-going.”
Because it’s just not POSSIBLE for any woman to be easy going when she’s doing something she doesn’t want to do and feels totally unexpressed about it.
If you find yourself feeling resentful a lot – this is the “why.”
It’s not possible to do “duty” (without it being your idea and feeling personally rewarding and good in some way) – and not feel resentful.
Not only that – in my experience, if you’re feeling resentment, it’s not only because you’re “giving” a lot and “going along” a lot” – it’s because your OWN needs are going unfulfilled!
If we don’t know how to say “No,” we truly don’t know how to say “yes.”
A man, believe it or not, can pick up on all that, so it’s worth your while to learn to say No instead of “giving in” or not speaking up at all.
Mariah Grey’s program “Be His Everything” (grab your space, it begins January 8th!) isn’t about literally being “everything” to a man.
Trying, or wanting to be “everything” can be exhausting and backfire! A man is likely to experience your desire to be everything to him as stiffling, surrounding, and clingy.
So, then, what does “Be His Everything” MEAN? And why is Mariah and Siren School TEACHING you HOW to be perceived by a man as “His Everything?”
Well, how many times have you heard a man say, or heard of a man saying – and from deep in his heart, too: “She’s everything to me…” ?
Well – He MEANS it!
He means that she’s the cornerstone of his life.
She’s what keeps him sane, keeps him getting up in the morning, gives him his purpose, his belonging, his ability to express himself – someone he can trust with everything inside of him.
So – it’s not just a clever line.
“Be his Everything” is exactly what a man thinks and feels about you.
So, to learn how you can have the man you want say about YOU: “She’s My Everything” – go here to take 8 full personal coaching classes with Mariah and come out after 4 weeks with a different mindset, a new belief in yourself and what’s possible, new responses to you from men everywhere, clear instructions (with 4 powerful weeks of practice behind them) – to make your dream of being everything to him real–>
Here’s what Mariah says about saying “No” – with her personal story:
How many volunteer days have you attended, or committees have you sat on, bake sale cookies have you baked, events, dinners, lunches, errand-running – all with a false smile painted on while you fumed inside?
Probably way too many. As women, we’re taught from an early age to be helpful and dependable and to forgo our own comfort for the sake of not “upsetting the apple cart.”
And, that upbringing can lead us to some pretty crummy places, especially with the men in our lives.
I remember when I was dating this guy who had kids. It was his weekend with them, but he had to work.
AND – He just “assumed” that I would watch them while he was gone.
He didn’t ask, he just started getting ready to leave.
When I realized he hadn’t figured out a sitter I was furious!
And, I didn’t say anything.
I felt so resentful, and yet I didn’t know how to say No.
I felt like I was being a complete bitch if I said I didn’t want to watch the kids.
So, instead I spent the whole afternoon watching the kids. And feeling annoyed with him and with myself for not speaking up.
When he got home, I was obviously irritated with him and an argument ensued. When I finally said I was upset because he left me with the kids he just said “Why didn’t you say something before I left?” I had no good answer. I didn’t say something because I didn’t know how to just say no.
Saying no to something that doesn’t feel good to you is not selfish.
It’s taking care of yourself, which is so attractive to men.
When you say yes to things that feel irritating or taxing, your vibe shifts to a lower frequency, and you become less open.
You start projecting those icky feelings outward through your energy.
So, while you may think a man will be more attracted to you because of your sacrifice, the exact opposite is happening.
He is being turned off by your resentment.
So, how do you say no? Like all things, with a Feeling Message.
What I should have said all those years ago was “I’m feeling so peaceful imagining having the house to myself this afternoon, and I don’t feel ready to be left in charge of your kids. What can we do?”
I know it can feel scary, and saying no goes against everything you’ve believed, but try it!
Let me know how it feels to start saying no more often.
To work personally with Mariah (she’s fantastic!) in her “Be His Everything ” class (and learn to say yes and no, to speak your feelings even when you feel terrified, and to create a whole new “vibe” with a man – fast) go here->